Teenage moms

Hi

Im a young mom. Although i was 19 when i fell pregnant, 20 when i gave birth to my daughter and 21 now. I am not with my daughters father and at the moment i do have to claim benefits due to my circumstances as i am currently training to be a teacher.

But even though i am working towards a career people tend to brand me as a teenager who got pregnant to get money and a council flat. When i go out with my daughter on our own i get dirty looks and nasty comments of particually of older women, who alot of them were probably around the same age as me when they had their children - the only difference being they were married and im not!

I was just wondering if anybody else out there has had similar probelms - so i know im not the only one!

thanks

Atlanta

Understand...

I got pregnant when i was 18 ... gave birth at 19. I married the father because i thought it was the "right thing" to do ... well now i have an 8 month old daughter who i am practically raising alone. her dad is never home and when he is home ... i am still on baby duty. I am always taking her places either by myself or with my best friend or my mom ... and i get the looks and the comments too ...


It doesn't matter though as long as we know we're good moms who love our kids, then the old bats can look all they want

I understand

i got pregnant wen i was 18 n had him when i was 19. i consider myself single becuz his father is so immature .Ur not the only one out there trust and believe. Whats ironic is where i live every1 seems to be prego n having a baby its becoming so popular for teen pregnancy.
erica

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I Know exactly what u mean!im 15 and have a 10 month old baby.I got alot of horrible looks when i was pregnant!but i dont get them any more really coz ive learnt that they dont know me so they cant just say"oh shes 15 so that means shes a bad mother"some people are so judgemental.but hes a lovely boy and i love himi was on tv in may about being a teen mum!its on you tube ..its called too much too young and its part 2.anyway bibi for now x

I know what u mean

Hey i know what you mean,

I am 18 and 19 in june expecting my second baby in june as well. I lost my first child a year and half ago and now pregnant again with the same guy. I have been with him for 4years and plan to get married next year.

Alot of people look at me as some young gilr who got herself pegnant but it's not like that at all. It's not easy being a young mummy to-be but i don't regret anything and i can give my child the love and oppertunities he ever needs. I can't stand the prejudice's people have against young mothers.

Ana xxx

Hello

sorry t say but people are like that i am 19 and have 2 children and am preg with 3rd. as soon as people see me i am put into a stereotype. i think it is because of the things they see on tv etc. eventually i got sick of all the stares and id just hold my head up and show i am not ashamed of having children if people stared id just say its a baby or gorgeous isnt he. it gets easier to ignore trust me x

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So sorry, I dont really know what your talking about. But I know thatbi would be upset if every where I went it was like that. Good luck, and congrats on pursuing your career! Best of wishes,
-Puppypout

I know how you feel

First thing I have to say is congratulations on persuing your career after giving birth a year ago, it's hard to manage a child let alone looking after a 1 yr old. Even though i am with my partner, I still get government benefits and everyone complaining that their tax is going to somebody else. I am 20 but pretty much look like I am still 16yrs old. I had my boy just 9 days after my 19th birthday. I am not in a rush to get married, it;s only spending more money. Yes it is hard knowing that older women are talking about you. My mothers side of the family said they were dissappointed in me for getting pregnant, saying that i have ruined my life. I told them basically to F*#K OFF! because it was my life, I was on contraception and it must've happened because it was just meant to be. The older people have to realise that this world is forever changing and that we aren't in the 50's anymore. I have managed to put that stuff behind me and deal with the only thing that's important to me right now, and that is my son.
So don't worry, i can asure you that there are millions of other women that feel the same way you do
Hope all goes well with your family and career xx