How could the parents deal best with telling an odler child they were adopted? I don't mean eighth or nine as obviously they would know themselves and have clear memories, but more toddler-age where memories of early childhood could be confused?

hi,
I thought I'd make this into a thread, after replying to sixtyandlovingit.

I was adopted as a baby and I can't remember a time when i didn't know about it. I think my Mother told me when I was about three or four. I grew up in a very stable, close family, with two adopted brothers. We all grew up feeling special because our parents had picked us out and taken us home!

I think that is the best way to present it to children, I can imagine it being very traumatic being told that you are adopted as an adult, it would be like your whole life was a lie - I know that sounds abit dramatic, but I think it would.

So there you go.

hi i am doing a monolouge about adoption and have to research people thoughts and feelings on adoption so could you please inform me of your thoughts xx cazza xx

hey, i may ask if u knw who like to adop. i am from the Gambia. i hav 15 to 16 years old. i hav lost my parents an am looking for someone to adop me. please help me i will really happy.

I am one of seven children.We are all dopted from diffrent countries.My twin sister and I are of German descent(but born in Florida) Oldest sister is Egyptian, the two in the middle are from Bogata Columbia,South America,and the two youngest are from korea.We have all known that we are aopted from since we can remember.One big happy family, we are very close.

Sonceraye

So was I , back in 1956, and told I was "specially chosen" Then I had my own baby (while unmarried)in 1975....when I told my adopted mother I was pregnant she just went mad and told me I was a slut "Just like your mother".....luckily my adored baby went to a good home and luckily too I have heard from her, she grew up in a very stable and loving family and has her mothers (my) green eyes! She also was told when very small that she was "chosen specially".....I never found my birth mother, despite looking.....xxxx

Have you got any desire to find your natural parents shadowcat?

I would imagine that it has made no odds at all to your relationship with your parents. Do you think it has had any affect?

How could the parents deal best with telling an odler child they were adopted? I don't mean eighth or nine as obviously they would know themselves and have clear memories, but more toddler-age where memories of early childhood could be confused?