Inspired by Finette's story below, has anyone got any adoption stories they'd like to share?

It can be such a difficult process, it helps to hear about the good side!

hi my name is Tracy i was adopted at the age of 4 i am now nearly 21 i have a son of 17 months now and i have had a great life since i was adopted i dont feel the same as every body eles but i get on and im happy i love it wen i hear that young childrn get a new go a life like i got and my 2 wee sisters we got a home together whitch my mum and dad found hard but got on i thank them for giving us another chance at life and i would give them mine if they needed it dont hesitate to adopt even if you have kids of your own because the children that dont have someone to call mum and dad need it and this is from my own experence of being adopted and being a mum please wb thanks xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I am 28 and was adopted at the age of 3months old my natural mother did the best thing for me as she was an alcholic and couldnt raise me on her own as my father was in prison for petty offenses.I have had a wonderful adoption and love my family very much but like you say you always feel different.When i was 18 i went back to make contact with my natural mother only to find she had died when i was 6 because she drank too much one night and never woke up again. I have remained heartbroken as i never got to say thankyou to her for giving me a second chance at life and providing me with a very happy future i will always hold sadness that i never had the chance to meet her to show her how i turned out.I think if i was ever to have children that it would maybe soften the sadness as i could put my energy into being a devoted parent as it is a huge responsibility.Adoption is a taboo subject which doesnt come up enough and there isnt enough awareness around how positive it is as i know if i hadnt been adopted that life would have been a lot harder for me growing up i am so blessed with the wonderful choices that were made for me and the person i have grown up to be because of the help and support around me.I think adopted people always feel a void at times even if they have a fab life theres always a sense of loss and loneiness that is hard to put into words but is present in adopted people.loss in the sense of identity and loneiness in the sense of being given up.I think the adoption process should be made simpler in order to prevent children growing up in care and being sent to various foster homes as that is more unsettling and leads to all sorts of emotional complications later on in life im sure.I made a documentry about my experience and it is used to help other people who want to adopt or who are adopted and trace there bio family.My aim is to use my exprience to help others.katx

HI~
MY HUSBAND AND I WERE MARRIED 8 YEARS BEFORE HAVING OUR FIRST
SON.YEARS OF INFERTAILTY. THEN WE HAD A SECOND SON. WELL, YEARS
DOWN THE ROAD WHEN OUR YOUNGEST WAS 9,WE GOT A CALL FROM A
RELATIVE OF HIS.SHE WANTED TO GIVE HER UNBORN CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION. I TOLD HER WE WERE NOT THE FAMILY. OUR BOYS WERE 12 AND 9 AND WE WERE OUT OF THE BABY STAGE. SO I TOLD MY HUSBAND
WHEN HE GOT HOME AND HE SAID LORD NO. OUR CHILDREN ARE OLD ENOUGH THAT WE DONT HAVE TO BE WITH THEM EVER SECOND.(BUT DEEP DOWN INSIDE I ALWAYS WANTED A DAUGHTER) WELL 4 DAYS LATER MY
HUSBAND WOKE UP AND SAID, WE ARE SUPOSE TO ADOPTED THIS BABY.
I THOUGHT WHERE DID THAT COME FROM. WE "OUR WHOLE FAMILY"
started taking her to her dr. appt. and my husband AND I WERE
IN THE DELIVERY ROOM,HE CUT THE CORD,HELD HER FIRST,AND I PROUDLY WALKED HER TO THE NURSERY.WE GAVE HER,HER FIRST BATH.
AND TOOK OUR 4LB. 1OZ. BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL HOME. SHE IS AMAZING. SHE IS 16 MONTHS OLD, SHE KEEPS US LAUGHING ALL THE TIME. SHES A DADDYS GIRL,THEN THE BOYS,GIRL. I GET THE LEFT OVERS.THATS OK, I LOVE EVERY MINUTE OF IT. I WONDER HOW I GO ABOUT TELLING HER THOUGH.AND WHEN IS THE BEST TIME? ANY SUGGESTIONS???????????
THANKS,
TAMMY

I THINK YOU SHOULD ADOPT BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T AND YOU GET PREGNANT YOU WILL HAVE TO GO THROUGH ALL THAT PAIN AND MEDICATION THAT COULD KILL YOU!

Is your friend trying to adopt her neice, ie her sister's daughter?

It is a hard process.

my friend is trying to adopt a little girl and her sister has her and then her sister ripped up the papers so that way she can keep her. My friend has tried getting her back for a couple of years .But shes holding up.